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Holding A Mirror Up To My White Privilege

Tucked away in the township of Gugulethu, on the outskirts of Cape Town, South Africa, is a popular butchery and open-air shack restaurant called Mzoli’s Meat. A successful Black-owned business, Mzoli’s is famous for its grilled meats, good music, and huge crowds. It’s also known for bringing people together, attracting both locals and foreign tourists, [...]

Resilience In Times Of Crisis

Most of us go through our day with a sense of invincibility. We don’t believe bad things will happen to us. So, we’re often blindsided when they do. In the early days after the lockdown started, I was shocked at the scale of the pandemic and how quickly our lives turned upside down. I’m sure [...]

Dramatizing A #MeToo Story

It’s been more than four months since The Morning Show was released on Apple TV+. If you haven’t you seen the series yet, I reckon that self-isolation makes for a perfect time to stay home and catch up on…well…everything. Inspired by the book Top of the Morning: Inside the Cutthroat World of Morning TV and resembling [...]

Feigning Pleasure

Most women, at one time or another, have faked an orgasm. Perhaps that’s why so many women can relate to that classic scene from ‘When Harry Met Sally.’ Almost everyone does it! Thirty years on, research still supports this claim. A new study in Archives of Sexual Behaviour, led by Dr. Debby Herbenick and her colleagues at Indiana University, shows [...]

More Than A Body

Exercise more and lose weight are among the most common New Year’s resolutions each year. For some of us, these decisions can make a huge difference to our health. Often, though, we fall for unrealistic expectations from society that pushes vanity and thinness more than anything. We have become both the creators and consumers of [...]

When Sex Hurts

I recently published study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine which surveyed more than 1,500 women ages 18 and older in the United States about their experiences of painful sex. Most women identified as heterosexual (87 per cent) and were either married or living with their partner (70 per cent). About one in four women reported [...]

What’s In A Kiss

People kiss in all kinds of ways, from subtle kisses to passionate kisses, friendly kisses to affectionate kisses, cheek kisses to French kisses, and much, much more. We kiss for lust, intimacy, pleasure, comfort, security, and love. We kiss between couples, as part of families, and in greeting people in different cultures. A range of [...]

Talking To Kids About Pride

This time last year, Canadian television personality Jessi Cruickshank made a video celebrating Pride with a handful of kids. “Happy Pride!” the youngsters cheered, surrounded with rainbow flags and balloons.“Who here knows what gay pride means?” asked Jessi, opening the conversation. As expected, it didn’t take long for the kids to say some of the funniest things. One girl explained [...]

Body Image: The Art of Not Giving A F**k

I’ve struggled with body confidence at different points in my life, especially in my twenties. But my thirties were a sweet spot for a shift in thinking about body image. In 2015, shortly after my thirtieth birthday, I started by PhD and began studying many of aspects of sexuality that had been a mystery to me, [...]

The Sexually Liberated Woman

A recent headline in The Independent read, “Millennial Women Having Twice As Much Sex As Older Generations But Half As Many Orgasms.” The article presented findings from a survey of 2,100 people aged 18 to 70, conducted by online sex toy retailer Lovehoney ahead of Sexual Happiness Day on 21 April 2019. They found that 39 per [...]